Thursday, July 9, 2009

Steve McNair

Now you know I had to say something about this mess. First and foremost, it is a terrible tragedy that anyone lost their life. My heart goes out to both families.
(Disclaimer: In no way do I approve of murderers, thieves OR liars and cheaters.)

Where do I begin? The mistress. His career (like that's even important right now). The infidelity. The ex-boyfriend. Or his poor wife and kids? I think Ill go with the latter.

Everyone is talking about how 99% of athletes cheat, so I guess that means that its supposed to be "accepted" somehow in society because its the norm. I disagree 1000%. Once a man and a woman make a commitment to each other, whether its marriage or not, they should be faithful to one another, but that's a whole other story.

Some men are talking about how they need to re-evaluate their side chicks and take a step back. Bla bla bla. All I can do is shake my head at that... perhaps you shouldn't have a mistress to size up? I don't get it! Everyone is somehow "mad" at his other woman, Kazemi, for being involved and killing him. She is dead wrong, literally. But what about McNair's accountability?

What about Mrs. McNair??? What about the kids?! No one is talking about how this poor woman's life has just come crashing down around her. Her husband, the man she exchanged vows with and said "Through Thick and Thin Till Death Do Us Part" is dead at the hands of a woman whom he was having a secret relationship with, which she knew nothing about! If that's not devastating I don't know what is.

I'm sure when Mechelle McNair married him she thought it was the beginning of a fairytale that we all dream of. The white picket fence, big house, children, money, fame, love and respect. She got most of that but it seems at such a great price. Never in her wildest dreams did she think that her marriage would end in ultimate despair, with Steve being shot to death by his mistress! No one deserves to be lied to, manipulated, disrespected, and deceived. On top of all that, it wasn't just sexual; he was financially helping Kazemi, taking her on trips, buying a car, putting her up in a place, etc.

I can speculate and create different scenarios all day about the McNair marriage, the affair and the tragic deaths. The truth is we will never know all of the facts. What we do know is Steve was a 3-time NFL Pro Bowl quarterback and team leader for 13 years. Steve was a married man of 12 years. Steve was a father. Steve was having an extramarital affair with a woman 16 years younger than him. He was shot four times. Mcnair is dead. His girlfriend is dead.

We all make mistakes. We all have choices to make that affect others lives in one way or another, most importantly our kids. Sometimes big. Sometimes small. No one is perfect. What I also know is that if Steve McNair chose to stay faithful to his wife, stay true to his vows and be the man and father he should have been, he would be alive today. That's a fact.

He will forever be remembered as the married football player who was killed by his mistress. All that he worked for and accomplished as a professional athlete has been overshadowed by a terrible mistake. A bad decision he consciously made, over and over again. He died cheating on his wife. He left his four sons with no answers, no father, and a bad example. He left his fans empty, confused, and some disgusted.

He left this world as a liar sleeping on his responsibility.

Steve "Air" McNair did what a lot of men do. He cheated on his wife. He, unlike most, paid the ultimate price for it: his life.

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